Friday, December 31, 2010

Bundles Of Joys ... and Of Tears ! Part 2


I'm finally back to finish the second part of my story. I need to hurry writing this part so it can reach the deadline ~ before the New Year's countdown tonite so I can leave all my sad stories behind and start with good ones ( I hope ! ) For the upcoming New Year 2011 .
Like what I had said before, tragedies just kept pouring in during my stay in Philippines. My daughter's wedding day was also filled and jampacked by not only drama but also suspense and  action just like in a movie. I have stepsisters starting to know who they are and how they became my sisters in the first place ( long story as well ). Eventhough we're connected either by mother or father doesn't matter at all coz we're all happy together even with our own separate lives. We all grew up separately and we just started to meet each other via internet only a few years back. Again, thanks to technology coz I found my other sisters I had not seen during my childhood years ! Some looked like me too lol ! Although truly, I was very unhappy for the situation of one stepsister who just had a baby boy last month.
Despite of what's going on arond you...
 Welcome to the world Baby Xian !

My sister's marriage was falling apart way before she even gave birth to baby Xian last Nov. It was so sad to know that her husband had fallen for one stupid woman and had chosen her rather than his 2 kids and dedicated loyal wife.

 I was furious when I found out how he was treating my sister all these months. I'm not looking at one side of the coin here even if she is my sister. If she had shortcomings, I don't tolerate it as well. But, after balancing the situations on both his & her side of stories, I concluded that It was just so unfair for my sister to suffer such breakdown . How stupid can he be ? My sister works the whole day during her pregnancy to add to their financial needs. In fact, her job was more stable than his in the same company.She was loyal, dedicated wife and most of all, faithful despite of admirers even until now. While He as husband was stationed to work in a separate town and only comes home during weekends. He doesn't even see his family at all. Doesn't he miss them ?

My poor young nephew who doesn't have any idea what's happening around him ...
How can he have a relationship with someone when he can't even provide enough to support the basic needs of his family? He's only human, that's the normal crap men say when they get busted for having extra-marital affairs. Such a total bull s**!  The whole company knew what he had been up to and had just fired him from work. Good for him but then, I'm sorry for his wife and kids.  He had lost his job due to his womanizing, my sister is now left to support her 2 young kids aged 5y/o and 1 month old. It wasn't easy for her physically, financially and mentally. Her rent for the place where she lives with her kids is now 5 months late for payment. He never gave her the money for the rent. He was so busy spending his money with his concubine. My siblings had already warned me that they even thought my stepsister was going crazy before I arrived. I made sure I talk to her and her husband the moment I came. I made him swear infront of her and my family that his decision to stay with my sister is by his own free will and that he would like to patch up things between him and his wife. In the end, he was just absolutely a liar. Only few days after that night of serious talk with him in my house and his serious swearing infront of all of us the he loves his family , what absolute crap did he do ? during my daughter's wedding day , he ran away from the church where we were for the wedding ceremony. Left his wife and kids on their own in the church and went to see his mistress. What a darn loser ! If I'm not surrounded by the Town Mayor and Governor of Laguna during that time, I would had been cursing in and out of the church! I swear to God I would love to chop this guy into pieces !

 I told myself, that's it ... he's gone forever in my sister's life and our lives as well. I told her to be on her feet and be strong. She got 2 kids who needs her strenght and support. She should be there for them. I hope she'll be just like me. Strong, brave and with guts to achieve goals even without anybody's help. I really hope she'll overcome this sad stage of her life coz I did ! It would take time to heal.  I know that for sure coz I'd been there ... so I really hope she be brave and strong !

Dec 18th ~ During The Wedding Reception :

Back to my daughter's wedding that day, the ceremony had finally finished as well as the never ending vidoe and picture taking inside the church. Ee all went to another town for the reception.

Travelling the wet and slippery mountainsides of Luisiana, Laguna on the way to Lucban, Quezon. It was a rainy day but we had an enclosed van so we managed to keep ourselves dry before and after the wedding. The reception 's venue was located on the 3rd flr of a building and got no lift at all. So with our super high heels, we all climbed up the stairs with great patience. We're all getting hungry already ! The music and the host's voice on a microphone hurt our ears the moment we reached the top floor. OMG! Lots of people ... where did they all come from ? For sure, I can count my family members who attended. We're not even 30 persons in total. The Grooms friends, neighbors +++ occupied 95% at least of the total guests. Lucky we got enough food to fill up everyone !

It's a tradition to pin money on the groom and bride's clothes during reception as part of their Wedding  gifts.

It was a happy moment to see the happiness on the couple's faces. I wish them the best in the marriage years they're gonna share.

When The Party Was Over !!!

I have 2 younger brothers present during the event. The older one is a dance choregrapher who used to work in Japan years ago. His daughter was one of the flower girls.

The younger one was the one who escorted my daughter and handed her to her groom.

My brother works as a driver of the town's treasurer in Sta. Cruz Laguna. He had the government's car in charged with him when he came for the event. He got drunk during the party and started singing during the Karaoke session. He loves to sing !

 But then , I warned him not to drink anymore alcohol beforehand coz he's gonna drive the car back to Sta. Cruz with his whole family of 4 kids and wife in tow. Not a good idea to drive back on a wet, zigzag mountainside during midnight. Especially when there are no streetlights and army checkpoints are present. He disregarded my concern .

I even tried to take the key from him but he refused. I tried to talk to my other brother to get the car keys but then again he refused. Ok, I had enough for today I said to myself. What ever happens this time on, I'm not part of it and don't make me be responsible for anything, whatsoever. I turned my back and went in the van with my kids and some guests. The moment my driver turned the headlights on, I saw my brother's youngest son being placed on the front seat of his car right beside him . His wife, 2 daughters and elder son at the back. I yelled out loud asking why is the kid infront when he's driving drunk ? he just said he can manage . What the hell ? Ok that's it , my van was off to the grooms house so I can pick up some things. he was there too and the grooms family tried to convince him to sleep over there or drink some coffee . He was just way too stubborn to go back to Sta. Cruz. My driver just said. no worries mam, I'll follow his car then so I can light up hi way too. I just shrugged my shoulder and said " that's his problem now & we are out of it ". Along the road, I can see his car swerving from time to time. It's a very dark road down the mountains and quite slippery coz it was drizzling as well. Then suddenly, on a curve, we just got stopped by a waving policeman while I saw his car infront of us speeding away. The policeman jumped in the front seat and told my driver to follow the red car running away. I asked " what's the hurry officer ?" The red car did a hit and run . It knocked down a vehicle and some people on the curve by the road. I was shocked and all of us in the van had all of of our mouths shut. No words whatsoever. ! I didn't see what happened when we passed the accident site coz it was way too dark ! How did that happen ? I asked again.The policeman explained that there was a car accident by the curve and they were there investigating on accident site when the red car appeared and knocked down a motorcycle involved in a previous accident. I told him that they should have put a warning sign that there's an accident to warn the on coming vehicles. He said they were about to put up but the red car was running fast.
This is a total nightmare ! I was hoping we don't get to see my brother's car infront of us  at all... aside from us chasing his vehicle, 2 policemen  armed with shotguns were chasing him downhill on a motorcycle. I just don't know what to say anymore. I have to keep our identity away from the policeman inside our van. He kept looking behind and saw my kids and my guests. He asked. where are you from ? I said we are from Sta Cruz and just attended a wedding here in Luisiana, Laguna. That's all. I told him if we can slow down a bit coz there are children in the van too and we don't want to get into any accident as well. By the time we reach the town of Pagsanjan, he went out and said thank you for the ride and  help.

I don't know if I have to say " You're Welcome "! i was just too speechless. I wondered where my brother's car is. But when we took the very 1st turn to the city road, his car was on the sideroad surrounded by armed policeman. My driver just pretended he didn't see his car so we sped off away from them. We don't want to be involved at all. It's a too complicated situation now. Specially after having an officer with us in the van thinking we didn't know anything about the red car. That's it... we all headed home. I just don't care anymore what happens to my brother. My phone was off, So are all other phones in the house. It's his fault and responsibility so he better be ready to deal with it. I warned him so many times of the danger of driving drunk before ... he made his own destiny and I can't help him this time. It's a lesson for him to learn & think about. Unfortunately, my daughter's husband bailed him out the following morning ... my new son in law is now starting to feel the pain of how to be a part of my trouble ridden family.

Dec 19th ~ My Last Night in Sta. Cruz:

The last night of stay in my humble house in Sta. Cruz was stressing. Sorting out laundry and all our stuffs to put back in all our bags. Then to my surprise, my youngest brother ( Driver ) came for dinner in my place. They always come without invitation anyway. It's a regular habit when I'm around coz they know thare'll be food on the table for everyone!. I never said any word at him and pretended he didn't exist infront of me the whole night to show him my anger for what he did. Putting  his whole family in danger and the rest of us in serious trouble.
 I just continued to pack my things to take to Singapore coz our flight from Manila to Singapore was at around 10am via Jetstar. Until my brother left that night , I never talked to him. Good he knows that I'm mad and don't tolerate stupid irresponsible acts they bring.
In the early morning, of 20th Dec around 4:45am , I started handing some cash for Christmas gifts to my nephews and nieces. Forget their parents ( my siblings) coz they should learn how to find money themselves! Then my mother out of nowhere nagged about money to my dismay. She was unhappy about the way I send them money every month. She wants to get the allowance in full at one time. I told her, you get the monthly allowance in full but it's not even the middle of the month, the allowance she holds are all gone ! So whether you like it or not, I do the budgeting for you and you get the allowanve on a weekly basis to make sure you have something everyweek. In fact, I'm the one getting problematic on sending them money monthly anyway. She started yelling nonsense and I flipped ! I told her, you're not happy i support you ? The door is wide open for all of you to get out and find yourself a life of your own coz I didn't volunteer myself to feed all of you. You want a good house? I gave! You need food, these and these and that ... you get ! What do I get ? nothing not even a thank You ! Only favor I ask on all of you is to take care of the house. Keep it clean and decent. But what do I see everytime I come home? Junk, pests, dirt everywhere ! So you like it or not... you all take a hike and leave this house and leave me alone. I also have a life to live you know. Everyone in the house was quiet .I turned my back ... I left my home ... I don't want to look back ! I'm done for now ... I told my driver .. C'mon let's go , I don't want to miss my flight back home !

My sadness while on the way to the airport was priceless that early morning of 20th Dec. I couldn't even have a tear in my eyes anymore. They had dried out ... I'm just happy I'm on my way to Singapore then home to Perth again where I can be away from all my family troubles.Be on my own again. Peaceful, quiet do my own kind of thing and be happy at last !  But then again, by passing Singapore, there's still a problem in Singapore that I have to face ...

I miss my dogs !

again , sorry to stop here  and keep you hanging for more stories I had in my head.
But I guess  PART 3 of my never ending problems needs to be given time for now . I just hope a solution would be ready for me this 2011 regarding this issue . I keep telling myself to do positive thinking... Always !
So I'm keeping my Fingers crossed !!!!